Proverbs 31 is attributed to King Lemuel, whom we really know little about. He obviously had a good mother as she gave him some great advice here in this chapter. She warns him “Do not give your strength to women, your ways to those who destroy kings”. This refers to the need for single and young men to remain pure, and not give up their sexual purity to a woman who can rob a man of his strength by using sex to steal his power and leadership position. Sound advice from a wise mom.
She also tells him to care for the less fortunate. “Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are destitute. Open your mouth, judge righteously, defend the rights of the poor and needy”. We need to defend those who can’t defend themselves. Take care of hurting people. Defend those who can’t defend themselves. Stand for the oppressed. Support the needy and deal justly with everybody. This is great guidance for her son to help him be a good king and a great man.
Then she moves on to the section that typically is tied to this passage – the description of “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels”. She gives him a description of this wife physically, mentally, morally, spiritually. In every dimension the character of the excellent wife and mother is unfolded here. She describes this ideal woman, this model woman by looking at six features:
- her character as a wife (vs 11-12)
- her devotion as a homemaker (vs 13 -19)
- her generosity as a neighbor (vs 20-24)
- her influence as a teacher (vs 25-26)
- her effectiveness as a mother (vs 27-29)
- her excellence as a saint (vs 30-31)
She is truly a gift from God. “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all”. As she becomes older, as her children grow, they will appreciate her more and more and so will her husband because of her sacrifice and they will rise up and call her blessed. They will praise her and her husband should say I wouldn’t trade her for anyone or anything. The lesson ends with an understanding that a woman who fears the Lord is not only beautiful inside and out, but is worthy of praise. “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”. It’s what’s in the heart that makes a woman beautiful!
Proverbs 30 begins telling us these are “the words of Agar son of Jakeh”. The chapter seems to be a collection of proverbs written by an unknown sage who ws a student of wisdom. No one knows who the names referred to in this chapter are. There is some speculation that they in fact refer to Solomon himself. The name “agur” means ‘gathered’ and some think it a fancy name for Solomon. Whatever the case, this is a collection of a variety of proverbs, many being collections of things that define an outcome.
The author seems to speak about the reality that the more he learns about God and His ways, the more he sees how little he truly knows. It’s hard work to try and keep up with God’s wisdom. “The man declares, I am weary, O God; I am weary, O God, and worn out”. Walking faithfully with God is not a simple task, and teaching others God’s ways is even more difficult. Wisdom is a gift from God, but it isn’t an easy and simple gift. The writer here feels overwhelmed with the task. “Surely I am too stupid to be a man. I have not the understanding of a man. I have not learned wisdom, nor have I knowledge of the Holy One”. As wise as he is, he still feels completely inadequate.
He doesn’t lose sight of the reality that God is truth. “Every word of God proves true; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him”. While depending on human insight and knowledge is mere speculation, when we put our trust in God’s Word we have divine revelation. It is always true and right. We can depend on it. And it is complete, lacking nothing. “Do not add to his words, lest he rebuke you and you be found a liar”. Nothing else is needed to make it all we will ever need. If we only read and heed it, we’ll be able to walk faithfully with God.
One piece of wisdom has to do with being content. Greed keeps us from contentment. When is enough, enough? “The leech has two daughters: Give and Give”. The writer uses a leech to point out the impact of unbridled greed. It will hand on forever. Unfortunately it demonstrates the truth of the human heart around money and stuff in many instances. No matter how much people accumulate, they never seem to truly have enough. We must learn to be satisfied and rather than attach ourselves to the pursuit of stuff, we need to rest in God and His provision.
Proverbs 29 contains more wisdom around fools, discipline and pride. Solomon lays out the reality of dealing with a fool. “If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet….A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back”. The world is filled with fools, and they spew lots of noise with little value. A wise person remains quiet when dealing with a fool and does not get drawn into that interaction. You can’t convince a fool of anything.
Solomon again talks about the importance of discipline in raising kids. “The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother….Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart”. The reality is that parents have a responsibility to train up a child in the way they should go. God has given us that task. Kids don’t raise themselves, or at least they shouldn’t. It is our job to teach them the difference between right and wrong and be sure they understand it – even if discipline is required to drive the lesson home.
Pride is again called out as an issue of character. “One’s pride will bring him low, but he who is lowly in spirit will obtain honor”. We must not allow our own thinking about ourselves cause us to become prideful. When we are humble, and keep a view that is real in relationship to the mighty God we serve, we set ourselves up for God’s honor. We should never bring honor on ourselves – true honor comes from above. God delivers honor to the meek and humble in His way.
Part of that humility is the recognition of who God is and what His place is in our life, and the universe. God is the Master, in full control, seated on the throne above all. If we fear anything other than Him, our fear is misplaced. Yet far too often we do fear man, whom is nowhere nearly as powerful or authoritative as the God of the universe. We need to get that right. “The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe”. Our Rock, our Salvation, our Hope, our Future is God and Him alone. To allow man to have any of that is placing trust in the wrong spot.
Proverbs 28 has Solomon giving us some strong words around integrity. Integrity is what you do when no one else is around to watch. It’s what you do as a default action. Solomon makes it clear that integrity matters. “Better is a poor man who walks in his integrity than a rich man who is crooked in his ways….Whoever walks in integrity will be delivered, but he who is crooked in his ways will suddenly fall”. Integrity isn’t optional. It is God’s standard for how we are to live.
Our influence on others is also important. “Whoever misleads the upright into an evil way will fall into his own pit, but the blameless will have a goodly inheritance”. We have the opportunity to impact others and how they live. That happens whether we necessarily intent to do that or not. The outcome though is something God cares about. If we set an example that leads people to walk in God’s ways, to live a righteous and godly life, good things happen – Solomon calls it a goodly inheritance. If we fail to lead people in the right way, there is a price for that as well.
We have been told often in Proverbs that we must fear the Lord as it is the beginning of wisdom. Solomon gives us another warning about that here. “Blessed is the one who fears the Lord always, but whoever hardens his heart will fall into calamity”. The only reason you would not fear the Lord is you have a total misunderstanding of what God’s requirements are, and the reality that failing to meet them will lead to eternal separation from Him. God is in control. He is in charge. We need to fear Him and live God’s way.
God is paying attention to how we live. “A faithful man will abound with blessings, but whoever hastens to be rich will not go unpunished”. If we walk with Him faithfully, we will be blessed. If we follow our own hearts, we will be punished. It’s a pretty simple if/then situation. Living God’s way will yield a good result. Doing it our way not so much. We have to learn to walk in His ways – following His wisdom. “Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered”. We have to walk with God in His ways. That’s the only way to achieve His blessing!
Proverbs 27 has Solomon sharing lots of wisdom around relationships and people. But he kicks off this chapter with this: “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring”. This truth contains enough for us to ponder for some time. The reality is, we have no idea what tomorrow brings. It is not in our control. It is not something we can know. God alone is in control of the future, and while we will never know what that future has in store, we can know the One who holds that in His hand. We need to remember that life is precious and needs to be lived fully today!
He goes on to challenge us not to let pride get in the way of living well. Pride happens when we think more highly of ourselves than we should. “Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; a stranger, and not your own lips”. Some of us want to create the PR story of our life rather than living life in a way it shouts that by how we live. Far better for us to live life in a way that brings honor and glory to God in a way that others see, not that requires us to explain or promote ourselves.
He talks about the importance of relationships again. We need people close. “Better is a neighbor who is near than a brother who is far away”. We can’t impact each other nearly as much if we aren’t together and don’t spend time being close to those around us. There is power in relationships, “the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel”. We need to seek out and listen to the wisdom and knowledge of people around us. That counsel can save us much heartache if we only listen.
But relationships, the right relationships, are not merely a party. “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another”. We need to provide accountability for one another. Left to our own desires, we’re going to struggle to stay the course. We have to be willing to have awkward conversations and call each other out when we get off the road and into the weeds. “Better is open rebuke than hidden love”. Most of us aren’t willing to go there. We want peaceful and easy, not necessarily the hard and important challenges about how we live. But God’s going to deal with the dross. “The crucible is for silver, and the furnace is for gold, and a man is tested by his praise”. We’ll all be tested. Far better to live with people who will challenge our decisions and life to make sure we align with God.
Proverbs 26 has Solomon beginning with a description of what it means to be a fool in the first twelve verses of the chapter. The fool is described in every verse. Most verses compare aspects of normal life that are violated with the behavior of a fool. The deteriorating nature of foolishness is seen as the description progresses from drink to vomit. Solomon makes it clear that fools are on a road to destruction. And we need to be careful how we treat those who are fools.
Foolishness can come from failing to be realistic about life. Believing too much of your own PR can lead you down the wrong path. “Do you see a man who is wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him”. Wisdom is not something we should claim or tout. It is something others see and will come out all by itself. We don’t have to advertise our wisdom. It is evident by what is said and how life is lived. Wisdom leaks out, it isn’t advertised or promoted.
Solomon turns next to the topic of a sluggard. Throughout his book of Proverbs, he has talked often about hard work and the result of failing to be diligent in this area. He continues that here and defines what the outcome will be for those who are sluggards in their life. This sluggard is so caught up in himself that he will not take advice from others. He doesn’t feel he should work to learn more either. He thinks he has all the correct answers with no effort upon his part at all. It won’t work out, as Solomon clearly paints the picture.
He ends talking about the impact of hate upon a heart. “Whoever hates disguises himself….though his hatred be covered with deception, his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly”. You can’t hide your heart – certainly not for the long term. It will escape and leak out. Scripture tells us that out of the abundance of the heart, our mouths speak. Out of the heart, life happens. Out of the heart, actions come. We must guard our heart because it is the wellspring of life. We must resist allowing hatred to get into our heart as it will destroy us in time.
Proverbs 25 has Solomon giving us some great wisdom around relationships and living in righteousness. He begins by reminding us that God alone has the big picture and we as mere mortals search for things. “It is the glory of God to conceal things, but the glory of kings is to search things out”. We are not to know all the answers. We are to trust God and know that He alone has the keys to the future. God reveals what He wishes, but He is the sole author and keeper of what is to come.
Throughout Proverbs we’ve seen the power of the spoken word. Solomon paints a beautiful picture of words spoken well. “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver. Like a gold ring or an ornament of gold is a wise reprover to a listening ear….A man who bears false witness against his neighbor is like a war club, or a sword, or a sharp arrow”. He also paints a picture of what happens if we don’t take care of our words well. God expects us to guard our tongue and use our words for His glory and righteousness.
There is much in this book about caring for those less fortunate. In this case, it goes beyond that to enemies – those you despise or are out to cause you harm. “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you”. We aren’t to repay evil with evil. We are to repay evil with good – to share food or water with those who desire to harm us. As we do that, it causes God’s blessing and heaps shame on them. Much better than trying to get even.
Solomon ends reminding us that we have to be above evil. “Like a muddied spring or a polluted fountain is a righteous man who gives way before the wicked. It is not good to eat much honey, nor is it glorious to seek one’s own glory”. God expects us to remain righteous no matter what the cost. We are not to be pulled or pushed away from living a life pleasing to the Lord. It isn’t about our own glory, or getting what we want. Life is about obedience to God’s ways and faithfulness in walking with Him. That’s what He demands. We need to stay the course!