Archive for January 8th, 2021

Colossians 3:17-18

In Colossians 3:17-18 Paul reminds us of one of the most important traits of a Christ Follower – as a new person in Him, we need to live ALL of life for Jesus. There is no compartment Jesus fits in. As a believer, we live 24/7/365 with and for Jesus. “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” Note that Paul says ‘whatever’ we do – be it words or actions – we need to do it representing Jesus. And as we do, we must never forget that God has given us the greatest gift of all in salvation through Christ’s death, and our life should be filled with gratitude for His love.

Paul then tackles what marriage looks like as a new person in Christ. He begins with an unpopular view in today’s world – a submissive wife. “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.” Submit is a military word that literally means “to be under in rank.” It speaks of the way that an army is organized among levels of rank, with generals and colonels and majors and captains and sergeants and privates. There are levels of rank, and one is obligated to respect those in higher rank. A wife doesn’t necessarily submit to her husband because he deserves it. She submits because he is her husband and in God’s order for the family, that is her role.

The idea of submission doesn’t have anything to do with someone being smarter or better or more talented. It has to do with a God-appointed order. Wiersbe explained that “Anyone who has served in the armed forces knows that ‘rank’ has to do with order and authority, not with value or ability.” Submission means you are part of a team. If the family is a team, then the husband is “captain” of the team. The wife has her place in relation to the “captain,” and the children have their place in relation to the “captain” and the wife. It is not slavery, or being a doormat to your husband. It is literally coming under the protection of the husband – who with the place in God’s plan for leadership – also takes the responsibility.

Vaughan explains “The form of the verb (hypotassesthe, middle voice) shows that the submission is to be voluntary. The wife’s submission is never to be forced on her by a demanding husband; it is the deference that a loving wife, conscious that her home (just as any other institution) must have a head, gladly shows.” The Bible never commands nor recommends a general submission of women unto men, only in the home or in the church. Paul tells us that submission needs to be ‘fitting’. That does not define the extent of a wife’s submission. It does not define the limit of a wife’s submission. It defines the motive of a wife’s submission.

Guzik explains “There are exceptions to this command for a wife to submit to her own husband.

  • When the husband asks the wife to sin, she must not submit.
  • When the husband is medically incapacitated, insane, or under the influence of mind altering substances, the wife may not submit.
  • When the husband is violent and physically threatening, the wife may not submit.
  • When the husband breaks the marriage bond by adultery, they wife does not need to submit to her husband being in an adulterous relationship.”
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