Ephesians 5

Ephesians 5 is a powerful chapter where Paul addresses some important topics for each of us.  He begins by giving us an overall principle:

Walk as children of light….try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord….Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil”.  Life can’t just be lived on autopilot.  We have to focus on how we live. Life shouldn’t just happen to us.  We need to be intentional in how we happen to life.  We need to inspect how we use our time and be sure we are maximizing it because time is limited and short.  It isn’t just about getting through life, it’s about walking with God through life!

Paul shows us what it looks like to live a Spirit filled life.  “Be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.  He gives us four key ways we can let the Spirit guide us:

  • Interacting with each other with joy
  • Worshipping God with all our heart
  • Living a life of gratitude for all things
  • Submitting to each other in reverence of Christ

Being Spirit filled doesn’t happen by living alone.  It happens as we live with others, and walk closely with God.

Paul goes on to end the chapter tackling one of the toughest areas where living in the Spirit comes to life – our marriages.  He has strong words for both husband and wife.  “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord….wives should submit  in everything to their husbands”. He begins with wives and uses that ‘s’ word that has such a negative connotation today.  But it isn’t a bad word at all, and if understood, is really about freeing a wife from the responsibilities that are passed to her husband when she submits.  Being submissive does not make one a doormat to be trampled and taken advantage of.  It does mean putting one under the authority of another, but with that passes accountability and responsibility to the authority.

To men, Paul writes “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her….love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself”.  Husbands are told to do something differently – to love their wife as Christ loved the church.  What did that look like?  Jesus went to the cross and died for the church.  That’s the kind of love God calls husbands to have – a love that means dying to self and putting another above our own desires and needs.  It’s all encompassing love.  It’s agape love.  It is complete and absolute love.  That’s what wives are to get from their husband.

Paul summarizes what each is to do this way: “Let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”.  We can boil it down to two words:

  • Men – we are to LOVE
  • Women – you are to RESPECT

Love and respect – the two traits that define what a godly marriage looks like.  The world tells us that these two things are not the secret.  It is all about getting what we want and ‘feeling’ good about our relationship.  It’s about putting in 50% but no more, and if your spouse doesn’t put in their 50% it is time to move on.  But the problem with that approach is that things will be no different in the next relationship.  God calls each of us to put in 100%, because at times, there will be need for you to carry the relationship.  You will need to lead.  We have to be active and focused on intentionally loving and respecting our wife or husband.  That’s God’s plan for success in marriage.  Are you living that way?

2 responses to this post.

  1. AMAZING!! ❤️🙏✨

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